Personal pain easily interferes with interpersonal interactions, and these do not run smoothly at the best of times. Everyone has views about how to put relationships right, and societies commonly have customs and rituals. However, there is a human dimension that is independent of any situation, any relationship, any personality, any society, or any culture.
Given your existence as a human being, you must take action to ensure your interpersonal dealings are infused with goodness. Five exist for directly handling personal and interpersonal experiences of pain and suffering.
freeing yourself (i.e. your mind, your being) from anything that debases, contaminates or pollutes your goodness. It is arguably the most powerful of the because it can activate any of the others, release virtue and do much more.
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giving up something or permitting injury to yourself or accepting disadvantage for the sake of someone or something felt to be of greater value. It may be to enable continuance or growth, or to prevent harm that would otherwise occur.is about
Related Notion: Renunciation
giving something tangible or intangible to another as a help for them, without regret and without any thought of reward or return of favours. The size of the gift is less relevant than its suitability and the manner in which it is bestowed.is about
Related Notion: Magnanimityis L. magn- =
ceasing to feel enmity or resentment towards whoever or whatever has caused suffering or damage. It is about moving on from a negative frame of mind and letting go of a past event. The event may refer to another, or to oneself, or to society and life generally.is about
Related Notion: Mercyoriginates from L. merces =
state of thankfulness and appreciation for what has been received. It counter-balances the intrinsic pain, suffering and difficulties of living. There are no conditions or requirements here.
Buddha is the brutal Eastern realist: "Let us rise up and be thankful, for if we didn't learn a lot today, at least we learned a little, and if we didn't learn a little, at least we didn't get sick, and if we got sick, at least we didn't die; so, let us all be thankful."
Meister Eckhardt speaks for the West: "If the only prayer that you said in your whole life was 'thank you', that would suffice."
Originally posted: 26-Apr-2013