produce goodness in your world-as-it-is rather than as you might like it to be. However strong you are, you do not know the that resides within until you are tested. At that moment, if you are to maintain control of your self and your egocentricity, you need the relevant .is needed to
The various mantras deal with different spheres of reality that correspond to your personal uniqueness The dyadic internal structure of each is shown and explained below with other features:
Reality, most broadly conceived, is always generated, sustained or created by another person, group, social forces, customs &c. over which you have no control and often minimal understanding. The greatest difficulty is with aspects of reality seemingly unacceptable for you. «It is what it is!
Internal structure: This reveals that g1). then develops by conscientious with that reality (g2).in handling reality depends on a necessary to it (
may initially seem the hard part, but its necessity makes it easier. Getting a fix on the unavoidability and details required for is not easy, and conscientiousness is required to get that right.
Effect of Deficit: You become exhausted and dismayed by continual failure. Others perceive you as unrealistic or quirky or simply blind. If you are in a joint effort and the other is aware, then conflict will surely develop. If not, it is a folie a deux.
Pain & Fear:is intrinsically unpleasant due to the loss of hopes and dreams, and an awareness of the impotence of your wishes. What is commonly deemed «unacceptable» generates rage and feelings of injustice because of infantile attitudes of entitlement.
Excess: While it is impossible to be too accepting, it is possible to let reality overwhelm personal motivation. This can lead to fatalism, apathy and unnecessary suffering.
Note: It's a mantra not a rule or instruction, so defy the gods. Now and then a person is trapped in a room with no doors or windows: there may be no option other than to just walk through the wall.
Commitments of any sort are serious matters. Children know how important a promise is—but parents, politicians and others trafficking in power often don't. Promise little and do much. Also see false promises in .
Internal structure: This reveals that g1). then develops by conscientious to specific commitments (g2).in your intentional world depends on necessary to deliver on commitments that have been made (
often seem so easy at the time, but they always imply in the future that may be physical, financial, mental or emotional. Conscientious is necessary because the eventually required may turn out to be unpleasant, severe or embarrassing i.e. inviting egotistic avoidance.
False Promises: Our natural inclination to believe explicit commitments makes promises a tool of politicians, scoundrels and swindlers of all sorts. They speak with no intention to either submit or do the agreed necessary work.
Machiavelli "The promise given was a necessity of the past: the word broken is a necessity of the present."
La Rochefoucauld noted: "We promise according to our hopes, and perform according to our fears."
Effect of Deficit: You lose out as your resources—social, emotional or tangible—are frittered away by your unsteadiness or falsity. Others lose trust: perceiving you as unreliable and untrustworthy.
Pain & Fear: Because events may evolve unpredictably, you may suffer losses or be inconvenienced. While commerce is pragmatic and can build in this possibility, adjustments are usually not appropriate in personal dealings. Until the commitment is fulfilled and past, there is always the fear that the final outcome might be better or worse than you expected, or the conditions may mean that the expense or effort is much greater.
Excess: Obsessiveness: adherence to a commitment despite severe self-neglect or harm to others.
Note: It's a mantra not a rule or instruction, so cut and run might make more sense if you have been tricked or been misled and find yourself seriously out of your depth.
In relationships, service is more than just more than money can buy.
Internal structure: This reveals that g1) focused on the various needs of the other. then develops by conscientious to address those needs (g2).in your relationships depends on necessary (
Effect of Deficit: You become self-serving and inward looking, leading to social isolation. Others view you as arrogant, dominating or indifferent and will keep you at a distance or respond in kind.
Pain & Fear: An element of selflessness is required with the result that you may have to neglect your own interests and even suffer temporarily. There is usually a fear of loss and a worry about being disadvantaged or even being exploited, and ending up over-enmeshed in another's life.
Excess: Burn-out, with emotional, mental and physical exhaustion, and weakened motivation.
Note: It's a mantra not a rule or instruction, so disengage if you have become enmeshed in a barren or mutually destructive relationship.
Giving an account to another is fraught with hazards. Sometimes there is an issue of whether it is actually desired. A better phrasing might be «offer» rather than «give». Because of the requirement to be helpful, great care is needed in deciding what to say, how to say it, and in removing inappropriate biases. The recipient's responsibility and self-esteem require protection, and third parties might be affected as well.
Internal structure: This reveals that g1). then develops by conscientious as appropriate to the situation (g2).in your participation and relating depends on necessarily what is relevant (
The necessity tosomething relevant is rather obvious. However, being confident about whether you do indeed is easier than being confident that you can be via what you know. The best you can do is be conscientious about all aspects relevant to .
Effect of Deficit: You become disconnected from events and experience confusion. Others perceive your lack of attention as irresponsible and your lack of participation as uncaring.
Pain & Fear: It is painful to provide an account that is unwelcome for any reason. There is always the concern that it will prove mistaken; or that it will be taken too literally or used wrongly. An advisor may fear an angry response and humiliating rejection of the advice. There can be fears that the recipient may blame the reporter.
Excess: Over-complicating by giving more ideas and details than can be assimilated can confuse or undermine the recipient. In the case of advice, even if requested, interference with the recipient's autonomy and responsibility is rather easy.
Note: It's a mantra not a rule or instruction, so be ambiguous if you have to for reasons of politeness or discretion.
The truth is not simply the facts, it is also the meaning of the facts to you and others. Once sufficient clarity is achieved, the truth becomes a belief. Discovering facts and meanings is not easy, and may be impossible sometimes. Consciously investigating the truth means refusing to surrender to conventional wisdom, face-saving falsehoods, superficial deceptions and expedient hypocrisies that are usual in social groups. (This mantra differs from the usual moral focus which takes knowledge of the truth for granted, and then emphasizes virtues like honesty and truthfulness.)
Internal structure: This reveals that g1). then develops by conscientiously about the matter or issues under consideration (g2).in being confident about what you can believe depends on necessarily for that knowledge to be as good—accurate, precise, realistic—as possible (
Anto find beliefs that can work for you and guide your choices is necessary and natural, But beliefs often contain hopes and illusions. It takes more determination to conscientiously that a belief has validity, and what it means in practice.
Effect of Deficit: You deceive yourself or adhere to beliefs that are false or misleading. Others may be led astray.
Pain & Fear: The truth is commonly avoided or concealed because the loss of comforting illusions causes pain and distress. There may be guilt and shame; and there is often fear about consequences and how others will react. In pursuing the truth, there is also the potential to humiliate those who have lied, deceived or dissimulated.
Excess: Vigorous pursuit of the truth can go too far and become needlessly hurtful. Sometimes it is good to let sleeping dogs lie.
Note: It's a mantra not a rule or instruction, so accept ignorance about many matters: you just don't have the time or ability to know everything.
Each person experiences
Internal structure: This reveals that g1). then develops by conscientiously for the best results (g2).in your activities depends on necessarily whatever is involved in the doing (
is naturally sought in most activities, but it is especially necessary to be and self-controlled in your chosen occupation. Conscientious use of keeps you focused on your preferences, on finding what is right for you, and then on producing high quality. Success and quality enhance enjoyment.
Effect of Deficit: You will become demoralized and feel miserable or frustrated much of the time. Pessimism or depression may emerge. Others will be disappointed with the low quality and minimal creativity in your endeavours.
Pain & Fear: In any significant activity, there is always frustration and failure, criticism and rejection: made worse when you are putting yourself on the line. There can also be fears of the slog and toil that are routine elements of any activity that you care deeply about.
Excess: There is the danger of becoming a workaholic, and neglecting your family, and possibly your health.
Note: It's a mantra not a rule or instruction, so you will have to do what's called for in many personal and social situations.
|Pain||Effect of Weakness||Excess|
|R"G26||Accept Reality||Failure of hopes and dreams.||On Self: Self-exhaustion
On Others: Conflict
|R"G25||Stay the Course||Costs, losses or hardship.||On Self: Loss of resources
On Others: Loss of trust
|R"G24||Be of Service||Personal needs put to one side.||On Self: Isolation
On Others: Distancing
|R"G23||Give an Account||Inability to please everyone.||On Self: Confusion
On Others: Irresponsibility
|R"G22||Reach the Truth||Emotional reactions and need for change.||On Self: Self-deception
On Others: Lead astray
|R"G21||Do What You Love||Criticisms, rejections and failures.||On Self: Demoralization
On Others: Disappointment
See how personal uniqueness.and correspond to distinct spheres of your
Originally posted: 13-Apr-2013