means thriving with others, while being your own person and contributing in your own way.
Combining Levels provides the right balance, because it includes a getting a grip Centre with a paying attention Centre. In the diagram at left, the arrows show the forces coming from each Level with the implication spelled out in general terms.in adjacent
■means combining and , and not any duality but the most crucial dualities: right and wrong, good and bad, good and evil, bad and evil.
More ► Unity, especially when everyone is just like me, is safe and secure. By contrast, multiplicity and differences are hazardous—especially when there are others who do not care about leading a good life.
This is extremely difficult: what is required is discrimination. Once this quality is established, the lower combinations are fairly straightforward.
■means combining with . This is difficult but immensely rewarding: it demands commitment.
■means combining with . This is less difficult because it is practical and demands betterment i.e. a focus on improving situations, relationships, services or products.
■means combining with . This is of variable difficulty, because it demands relationship.
■means combining with . This is less difficult: it demands evaluation.
■means combining with . This should be easier: it only demands toleration of the imperfections inherent in social existence and inevitable in most enjoyment.
Precepts to cover each of these aspects of thriving are examined below, and explored in more detail in the next Topic. See diagram for an overview.
Theto assumes there is no rule book because each person is unique in terms of their obligations and capacities. You must not only know your own obligations and qualities, but you must understand and appreciate that others have their own obligations and personal factors. Everyone is not the same and everyone is important. in the context of different patterns of duties and obligations, each of which represents an individual's position, leads to the importance of .
If good that each can contribute.meant creating homogeneity, then forcing sameness would involve destruction, because it would remove the unique
Unfortunately,has been so often used to assert division and harm others for no good reason except prejudice and custom, that it is almost difficult to think of it as a vital necessity for good communal living.
Channels: Because there are two Centres in , will be channeled in two ways: in relation to different groups with , and in relation to different individuals with distinctive developed from unique life trajectories. More in next Topic.
must follow because that is where you play the game of life. provides you with your gyroscope as you make discriminations, and apply your to find your way through a myriad of tricky situations.
In the analysis of how channeling of commitment was discovered at the heart of the framework (RsHG4). Others need to be able to depend on your , so is associated with that responsibility and with being creative.is deliberately released within endeavours, the
is important because there is never certainty that will deliver the outcome that you or others want. Looking backwards, it may be easy to see that events unfolded naturally, but looking forward it is impossible. You have to assume events will unfold as well as possible if you adhere to the . The primary mechanism here is associated with under the influence of .
Channels: There are two Centres in each Level: and (in ) and and (in ). That means the potential existence of four Channels. However, close scrutiny reveals that two of these are inappropriate or impermissible. More in next Topic.
From the perspective of these, your goal is to function in a less egocentric way within your endeavours. This means others are likely to experience you positively, and you are more likely to make things better in general, whatever you happen to be doing. So in the broadest sense is the process found here.
You want to be treated better by your boss or by your firm. You want your equipment and gadgets to work better. You want better quality of services. OK: So does everyone else.depends on keeping (or others) in mind while .
can be superficial and habit-based—but that is not caring from the perspective of the . Productive activities and a creative attitude with the well-being of others in the forefront of your mind will encourage you to improve whatever you do as part of . By improving your effort, attitude, service, method or goal, you can make life better for people: your intimates, your friends, your colleagues, your employees, members of your community, or your clients and customers.
If youat any particular moment that you are (or should be or want to be) , then you are entering into a with them. Caring meaningfully, i.e. with personal intent, is what are about. You cannot relate properly to others, unless you become aware of yourself; and you learn most about yourself through your .
You know much about those closest to you, family and friends, as well as those with whom you frequently interact. So you feel like you are in a relationship.
However, you may start «» without much knowledge of the other at all e.g. nameless children who are being trafficked for profit. Still, until you get properly aware of what is going on and why it persists, you are unlikely to do much. builds your with those children, even if they remain anonymous.
The issue inis determining what is important from your perspective and in the eyes of others around you. In order to get this fix on values and society, you need to .
When you goodness for that issue. So combined with lead to a continuous focus on and the making of evaluations.under the influence of your chosen , you immediately compare relevant matters with the particular values embodying
Example: "Managers come to work but leave values at home",
Values cannot be removed or left at home, because the firm's mission and its priorities are values. However,can indeed be ignored. here takes on a deeper meaning to conventional managerial assessment or appraisal because, although results are important, there is more. The deeper issue is how far results or associated activities or events embody the higher ideal-based values held in common with many in the wider community.
You canand in many ways, but the circumstances play a significant part in both cases. As a result, there are always imperfections that must be borne whenever either of these is activated.
Infrom my , I must accept that all too often my real self does not match up to my ideal self, just as my actual society does not match up to its own ideals, or people I deal with are not what I hope for. When I apply to , I find a similar situation of imperfection. Anticipation often turns out to be the best part of the process of . Disappointment makes it all too easy to feel outraged. But our egotistic wishes mean that imperfection is an enduring part of human life. So the guideline here is to bear frustration calmly.
Because there is just one Centre in each Level, there is just one Channel generating the Precept: Tolerate Imperfection.
These social qualities based on combining adjacentindicate how it is possible in principle to thrive in social life. The Precepts are shown in the diagram: it is evident that they can all be rather difficult at times.
Originally posted: 31-Jan-2013