Remember: Firmness, even toughness, is essential if you are directly challenged, tested or unfairly attacked.
Remember: Getting control is not being controlling, being inflexible, forcing a situation or winning at all costs.
Helpful methods include:
● Accepting responsibility
● Doing favours that earn gratitude
● Being liked
● Accumulating influence through contacts
● Providing knowledge.
Patronage can be important: know which side your bread is buttered on and never offend unnecessarily.
Remember: Conformity is intrinsically weak: you will often do far better by standing up for your position, even if it is not popular.
Recognize that power-centred principles are rather dangerous at all times.
Do not be tempted to succeed at all costs—even if you see others doing this. Once you start breaking rules or compromising your integrity, you are in danger of losing the respect, trust and confidence that will be critical later in your career.
Working the power system enmeshes you within it. You become dependent on it and lose some of your freedom. At the extreme, you become a pawn and not allowed to have a mind of your own. The only sensible advice is: if asked to do something that you know is wrong, don't do it &/or start planning your departure.
By moving to Stage-2, you have accepted that you need to show your mettle; and you must accept that you are entering what is potentially a battle-zone—even if you and those about you are inherently good-natured.
Showing your strength even in the most productive way, may make others feel fearful and inclined to be submissive.
Getting control easily leads others to become passive and submissive, and all too soon you can become a dominating figure that evokes jealousy.
Your power-base, as it develops, will lead to others making demands on you and expecting favours, often unreasonably.
Exerting pressure is only a hair’s breadth away from coercing or intimidating and a few steps away from harassing or bullying.
Winning respect leads to some colleagues feeling inferior, and that is a potent generator of envy, bitterness and aggression.
Jockeying for position combined with any power base tends to generate political infighting with countervailing forces and cliques.
Protecting yourself is potentially evidence of being paranoid; especially when these efforts fail on occasion and you are unreasonably and mercilessly humiliated.
Check whether it might suit you to settle at this Stage.
Originally posted: July 2009