Stage-7: Spirituality — Embrace Destiny
Rationale
While the is about reducing stress by subjugating personal desires to social requirements, the choice of what to obey remains a personal matter. The is therefore about getting stress relief from choosing a suitable role and then automatically upholding it under stressful situations.
Values & Assumptions
Promoting Survival
Essence: Embrace your destiny
There are many things in life that cannot be controlled. Events just happen to us. Railing against fortune or fighting hopeless battles against fate generates stress. Even passive acceptance is not enough. It is far more useful to see a pattern so as embrace it as your destiny.
Benefit: Live without regrets
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Means: Recognize a higher power
Handling the Socio-physical Environment
Participation: Go with the flow
Man proposes, God disposes. Man plans and God laughs. In other words, there is a severe limitation on what can be planned in life. Illusions of control need to be given up and fighting against the flow of events is usually a mistake.
Interaction: Use spiritual healing
Pain is the greatest stressor and is unavoidable in life. As explained in the Producing Goodness framework, there are a some simple techniques of healing, especially:
- Be grateful
- Be forgiving
These must be activated because there is no limit to your ability to make mistakes. Having learned from them, you must just let these go and forgive yourself and be grateful for your successes. Instead of nursing grudges and grievances, it is better to be grateful and forgive others to dissolve pain and stress.
Individualization: Respect your uniqueness
Everyone is different. No two people have the same trajectory in life. Comparisons with others are odious. If you focus on your own uniqueness you can recognize that you are a cosmic miracle (and so is everyone else).
Channeling Your Functioning
Endurance: based on Surrendering
Everyone is different but .
Completing the Spiral
Having completed Cycle-2, we can re-enter the again simply by surrendering to the flow.
With incorporation of values, work is perceived differently. We can say «Work Spontaneously», rather than «Work Smart» or «Work Hard».
Working is spontaneous because it has been well-managed in Cycle-1 and it has become part of your life in Cycle-2. Rather than generating stress, work is an expectation and a necessity. Not to work would be stressful. Work is an aspect of a well-rounded life, because everything needs to be worked at. In spontaneously striving and thriving, a person finds their place in society, and even in history.
Having completed the Spiral,
- Review the findings.
Originally posted: 9-Dec-2022. Last updated: 28-Mar-2023.