This Tree guides you in bypassing social resistance so as to establish your ideas a sound and provide an account needed by a group despite their rejection.
This account is not a full exploration of psychosocial issues. It's purpose is to demonstrate that THEE is a model whose exploration generates findings that did not go into its construction. The specific aim is to scientifically validate conjectures developed in relation to the reversal of the oscillating duality and the identification of Root Level pressures of presumed biological origin. See more here.
Note: The main Acceptability level in this emergent framework appears to be read this part first.because that must have been previously faulty, and confronting rejection and adapting requires a selfless incorporation of what is significant, like it or not. It may help to
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Moving down the Tree, there is a transition from looking in depth to operating on the surface. In the spine, the two extreme Centres seem externally oriented: at the top (KL7) you are attentive to how factors fit into various perspectives, at the bottom (KL1) you depend on reliable methods. The other two Centres seem internally oriented: the upper (KL4) enables focus, the lower (KL2) enables feeling.
In this central spine, the yourself v your situation duality is fused.
In these balanced Centres, whatever is relevant for you has to be simultaneously fully relevant for the situation and others who may be involved as follows:
The three vertical Channels show a progression from doubt through to certainty:
KL7B ↔ KL4B: challenges whether you are genuinely ; and vice versa.
KL4B ↔ KL2B: Your energizes the that you experience in handling the matter; and vice versa.
KL2B ↔ KL1B: Your confirm your ; and vice versa.
Whatever you have proposed has been based on your appreciation of the various factors and forces, and has been produced from your particular perspective. Now that your message has been rejected, you have to give more consideration to perspectives that you might usually reject. That may mean widening the scope of relevant factors and forces. Nothing that touches seriously on the issue should now be ignored. Whatever theattributed, it must be respected. Even if your conclusions or the account as a whole is rejected, you can also reasonably expect others to respect what you present as .
are part of and the relevant phenomena may be integrated into anyone's perspective. In all cases signs require interpretation and leads to variations in opinion. Commonly, problems arise when items that appear significant to many are largely irrelevant to the issue, or when items that appear trivial to many are given high significance for the account.
Becauseis inherently debatable, orthodoxy and conventions are used in society to ensure acceptability and keep excessive or inappropriate subjectivity at bay. However, you must demonstrate that your subjectivity is ruled by a dispassionate selfless attention to the variety of possible . Those other perspectives must have some relevance and incorporating them may increase the acceptability of your account.
focus, and releases you to from your audience. The wider intrinsic to engaging with an increased diversity of perspectives will also challenge.allows you to
in these difficult situations is more than the application of simple logic or the presentation of data that speaks for itself. It is rather using imagination, intuition, reason and evidence in order to penetrate more deeply into the particular issue of general concern and relevance to the group. When done effectively, the result is crystalline clarity and laser-like precision where it counts. However, just because an account is lucid and correct, does not mean it will be acceptable. The additional requirement here, therefore, is to in a way that generates well-being for others. So you have to through the resistances and be aware of how adaptations of what you offer are being received.
must initially become acceptable to yourself, but you are producing the account and would not proceed if it was unacceptable. Furthermore, your well-being is likely to be enhanced by clearly. The primary requirement is therefore to focus on the well-being of others. Their awareness is often blocked due to anxiety, wounds to self-esteem or feelings of helplessness. So you must such things as well and take them into account. Within organization or communities, what you may suggest actions that are disruptive, costly or threaten the power structure. Again, you must these situational factors and take them into account.
Delivering an unwelcome account often leads the recipient to have an urge to shoot the messenger. This is an emotional response that harms the recipient and leads to a culture where negative feedback is inhibited. Although usually associated with 'speaking truth to power', it can be a group response as well. The irrationality common in large groups and crowds interferes with a sober assessment. The messenger is then treated as a maverick, trouble-maker, or fraud.
commits you to , and it gets support from the that you generate. requires you to become realistic about the most including competing views, and it gets acceptance through your appreciation of , irrational though some of these may seem to be. develops credibility by your support for (fads and fashions), and it is encouraged if it suits . In terms of scope, challenges, and in relation to effects, it energizes your .
establishing your ideas as acceptable. Because emotions are contagious, you can use them to influence others. There is nothing subtle about : either you and your ideas or findings are comforting and you feel welcomed and understood, or your account causes abhorrence and you feel rejected and devalued. are the only way to be certain you are attuning to your audience (singly or in a group) and they allow you to sense the acceptability of what you have to offer. (Intuitions, by contrast, are private and much less direct. Being subject to distortions by personal biases, they will encourage you to rationalize in a self-defensive way.) The certainty you gain from your will enable others to get confidence in you and what you say. They too find certainty in their emotions, not in their thoughts.run high in this scenario of social exclusion and seemingly inappropriate rejection, as they do in most breakdown situations. However, in this case your become the touchstone for proceeding and
These energize the . They will also reaffirm , and should be aligned with . They must confirm your reliance on relevant .must
used to create and spread accounts are the means by which others determine acceptability. Speech, writing, video, slides &c. may all be essential but only if appropriately produced. Scientific results, for example, are primarily judged on the methods/techniques used and the form/method of communication. , being an indication of your professionalism and expertise, must be brought into play to maximize the acceptability of your propositions. Performance is a factor because any technique may be used more or less skillfully, and applied at the right time.
Others must be able to rely on the techniques as well, which means accepting their general validity and specific appropriateness. That may be difficult if they are unorthodox. Yet the challenge may have called for new techniques.
The channel between confirmation that you are on the right track. need to channel (and be channeled by) your , and constrain (and be constrained by) .and should provide
The other three levels—KL6, KL5, KL3—have two Centres each: these must take heed of each other and connect to the Centres on the spine.
You have to realize that, for whatever reason, your interchange with the group has not been effective. Unless reciprocity exists between these two poles tends to and fosterare made, your ideas will never get established. The social group's attitudes must also become more positive. As no-one else is going to address these issues, you must assert your autonomy and make changes. Above all, to increase acceptability you need to because, however correct in principle, the account was unsatisfactory as communicated. However, as you are engaging with group concerns, it is also reasonable to from group members. Without that, there is probably no point. But, often all you need to do is to allow the situation to evolve. Some mutual
Reactions to your ideas primarily depend on how they were framed and presented. So you must take an honest look at your communications and consider how they can be improved. The language of may have been too dry, or too legalistic, or too abstract. The structure of the argument may have been poor. You may also be able to improve presentation through the use of diagrams, or re-writing, or simplifications, or using analogies or examples, or re-focusing on the most pressing items. Perhaps you need to offer audio or video accounts as well or link to wider concerns.
become committed to . It also strengthens your ; and helps you give focusto emergent .ensures that you
Nothing can ever be communicated to someone who has their face to the wall, but you are only persisting because you believe a positive reception is possible. So you need to build on this potential, improve attitudes and increase receptivity. This may involve responding to popular expectations, reducing demands on others, offering educational support, identifying new sponsors, or targeting previously ignored groups. Sometimes, if you just have patience, events will start proving your point and an entry to acceptance opens up.
Your readiness toreleased by being alert to and . will encourage you to appreciate , and enable support for your .can be
It is difficult for any of us to accept something that we cannot understand—even though we are so often in that position. The usual way to grasp the nature of anything new or strange is to compare to it something else that is familiar (cf. Piaget's assimilation). You can convey understanding best by choosing your own comparisons to help you explain your account. Analogies or examples are always useful. However, you must expect that others will select their own comparisons and analogies, not always sensibly. Some complementarity between these two sets of comparisons helps to bridge the gulf in acceptance.
You must find relevant comparisons with several or many points of similarity with the issues and your propositions. Choose what is already accepted, well-understood and (if possible) familiar and appreciated by your audience. These comparisons may be competing ideas or supportive ideas. People like explanations that take the form of analogies, illustrations, examples and stories, because this helps them feel they understand. They will almost certainly distort whatever you offer, but that need not matter.
becomes realistic. They need to validate your selected , and strengthen .help to ensure that
Ifare close to your own, understanding is easier. However, those not in favor of your views or genuinely bemused will often suggest comparisons that seem to you inappropriate or even bizarre. Nevertheless, if that is how others are thinking (malice aside), then you need to take it seriously. You need to how and why they may be drawing such comparisons. By engaging on their ground, you can understand the issue better in social terms, and explain what you see in ways that others are likely to grasp.
encourages your , helps in getting acceptance of what you , and should justify insistence on your own .
Within any activity, group, field or issue, certain ideas and opinions are given most attention and importance at any moment. Anything aligned with that has group acceptability. You too have views about what are the most important aspects of your ideas and what you should emphasize. Given the diversity of relevant values and choices, priorities do not always seem particularly rational. On close inspection, accommodation between your own preferences and popular priorities in your communications.(i.e. ) both the groups and your own prove to be matters of brute assertion and intrinsically emotional. Given collective opposition, it is necessary to get on side with whatever emphases are most prevalent and get acceptability by focusing on acceptability. However, there needs to be an
You are likely to perceive the group as dominated by conventional wisdom, fashions and fads, or habitual views. However, if this is where others put their attention, time and money, opposition is futile. Even if some views run counter to your message, you have to take notice. You must find a way to align yourself with emphases in current opinions that you can share and actively promote. If you are in tune, as fashionable but unfavorable ideas fade, you can seize your opportunity with the new emphasis.
Supporting credibility for your , and validates your . It should align with your , and channel the activation of .provides
Your account has numerous dimensions, features and/or recommendations about which you feel differently. You may need to compromise or tone down some aspects to make your message more acceptable. However, what you judge as most important must remain. This is a matter of your personal preference, however much you rationalize it.
Probably wider personal priorities are playing a part here because some self-protection is mandatory. Such priorities might relate to your future plans, to other time commitments, to ensuring your own safety, to maintaining self-respect, to controlling expenditures.
encouragement to Your . also reaffirms your , and constrains the that you activate.provides you with
Previously amended: 13-May-2014. Last updated: 24-Jan-2015.