The human condition is difficult. Happiness does not just happen. Nor can you chase after it in the abstract. It is like anything deeply importanti.e. anything that is an ultimate value-PH6L7—friendship, wealth, peace, growth, efficiency, knowledge, success, freedom, love—you only experience it as a by-product of relevant activity. (We are here to do!) In the case of happiness, that activity is constructed around one, or more usually two, of the , one on each diagonal.
The diagonals of the TET reveal the two components necessary for genuine happiness. They have been named:
The Immersion set of lies on the diagonal running from upper left to bottom right. In order, they are:
Obedience ↔ Salvation ↔ Creation-in-Flow ↔ Creation-Courage.
This set of immersive because their operation demands that you must actively interact with external realities (psychosocial and empirical) and experience yourself as part of them. Do this properly and you stay sane. However, the resultant meshing of your self and the world about you is never fully under your control, and self-restraint is required for safety.is described as
Reality may be messy and unknowable. But the more you disconnect &/or avoid what is psychosocially and empirically real, the more difficulties you will cause yourself &/or others. That is guaranteed. If you are unconnected with reality for a prolonged period, you lose touch. You start creating a solipsistic world to live in, and keep people at a distance. Probably you will inadvertently hurt or harm others around you, and surely fail to help them.
Remember that how to become a part of reality in a way that delivers sanity and self-restraint». The answer seems to be experiential: partial identification. The three each offer a different possibility for your identification.action is not ordinary action that can be satisfied by a pre-specified result and then forgotten about. The challenging goal in this set of is «
Obedience provides immersion through identification within an institution, enabling you to follow its rules and procedures, explicitly or implicitly.
Thedoes not «require» obedience: that would be too easy. It assumes you are possessed by a wholehearted willingness to obey. That is why choice of role or institution is part of the . In that way, obedience is not a burden but a release.
Salvation requires immersion via a humane attitude leading to an identification and in grave danger.
Thedemands that you get personally involved in providing practical assistance. This means finding a way to help that is both socially viable and acceptable to the person in need. For those not on this , seeing suffering usually generates persecutory anxiety, due to the pain associated with automatic but transient empathic identification. Actions like ignoring, minimizing, donating, and forgetting are used to relieve that pain.
Creation demands identification : i.e. an idea, proposition or conception.
Thisgenerates the most detailed and variable form of immersion because there are so many possibilities. Especially, in its extreme form, effort is required to endure rejections, to confront seemingly intractable obstacles and to overcome failures. In its milder form, suitable full-time work should usually offer sufficient opportunities.
The diagonal containsthat range from » to « ».
Going down the diagonal, theseinvolve ever greater transcendence from current reality (X-axis) and require ever less self-detachment (Y-axis). As a result, they progressively:
Going up the diagonal, theallow ever more detachment from self (Y-axis), and ever less transcendence of reality (X-axis). As a result, they progressively:
Maximum entangled immersion in reality is associated with transcendence of current reality—but how can that be? This paradox is more apparent than real.
Transcendence of Current Reality involves:
Without engagement, imagination is untethered and cannot function effectively. Without imagination, nothing would ever become deliberately different from the way it is. So the two complement each other.
immersed and actively working on a challenge to produce a specific imagined new thing or state.is fully
immersed, because it is used to maintain equilibrium within actual reality. Nevertheless, it shows the same requirement for engagement + imagination. Loss of engagement leads to mental disorder.is not
Many people find a way of avoiding or denying reality and some may claim transcendence. Such pseudo-transcendence may be dissociation or escapism (i.e. failure of engagement) or Panglossian self-delusion (i.e. misuse of imagination).
There can also be insufficient transcendence without engagement i.e. pseudo-immersion, termed «enmeshment» in the psychotherapy literature. A person here projects aspects of themselves into other people and things, and wrestles endlessly with them. This connection is not to external reality but to a split-off part of the self, in order to maintain psychic wholeness.
Originally posted: 27-Jul-2012