This Tree guides you in allowing yourself to recover so as to repair psychic damage and maintain personal equilibrium following a collapse.
This account is not a full exploration of psychosocial issues. It's purpose is to demonstrate that THEE is a model whose exploration generates findings that did not go into its construction. The specific aim is to scientifically validate conjectures developed in relation to the reversal of the oscillating duality and the identification of Root Level pressures of presumed biological origin. See more here.
Note: The main Selflessness level in this emergent framework appears to be read this part first.because your collapse is caused by what feels like a betrayal of trust. The world on which you depended (i.e. your self and your situation) has fallen apart. Your well-being now depends on being able to again. It may help to
Seek Guidance at KL7 by
Take Heart at KL4 by
Find Energy at KL2 by
Make It Happen at KL1 by .
There is a move from a higher plane of mentation down to concern for practical interaction. The two extreme Centres seem to take you out of yourself: at the top (KL7) you avoid being trapped in your own ruminations and self-pity, at the bottom (KL1) you engage with the world naturally. The other two Centres seem to force you back on yourself: the upper (KL4) enables relating, the lower (KL2) insists on the primacy of your own experience, however strange or unexpected.
In this central spine, the yourself v your situation duality is fused.
In these balanced Centres, whatever is relevant for you has to be simultaneously fully relevant for the situation and others who may be involved:
The three vertical Channels show a progression from doubt through to certainty:
KL7B ↔ KL4B: challenges your capacity to ; and vice versa.
KL4B ↔ KL2B: Your energizes your ; and vice versa.
KL2B ↔ KL1B: Your appeal to confirms your reliance on ; and vice versa.
is an active experiential state that maintains the potential for creating meanings and for perceiving diverse meanings in stimuli and received messages. During a personal breakdown, it is common to have intrusive repetitive thoughts that lead nowhere. Communicating is commonly dominated by complaining or blaming, or ruminating miserably and anxiously. New meanings and communications are required, but you cannot initially know what they are. So must be given more time and serious attention than usual, and what emerges also requires respect. Ideally, you should be engaging with others who are also and not quick to criticize, condemn or instruct.
focus on , and demands that you require a . Given the unavoidable depressive and paranoid features, will also challenge.allows you to
If, following collapse, you have someone that you know you can, then confiding in them is easy and this becomes your primary source of well-being. Getting continuing reassurance and comfort from acquaintances offers, at best, only short-term help. When is a strain, it is only possible for rather short periods before suspicion and withdrawal develops. If no family member or friend is available for lengthy conversations, you might use a helping professional (e.g. personal trainer) who knows you, or retreat to a benign, trust-inducing environment. Alternatively, you may need to find a psychotherapist, trained in selflessness, who recognizes both your needs and your difficulty in .
Everyone needs to trust in the ultimate beneficence of the universe, itself selfless. It may be a illusion (or delusion), but once shattered, dangers and threats are perceived everywhere and your well-being is markedly reduced. Ordinary social life revolves around trusting and your suspicious hostile attitude, can make coping an unpleasant struggle. Extending trust widely and selflessly is difficult for everyone, but particularly for those who are vulnerable or disconnected from their own spirituality. In practice, the minimum should include at least one confiding relationship, a community or social network within which you feel you belong, and a few deep values (seebelow).
Breakdowns are far more likely in vulnerable people who have childhood experiences of loss, separation, neglect, rejection, abuse, or betrayal. This pattern naturally repeats in adulthood. If there is an unconscious goal of repairing the damage, a second relationships may be far more successful. It may also repeat because it has become a template and paranoid reactions then become your 'natural' mode of being. When the self is defined by mistrust, its breakdown may be a positive development. For severely damaged people, it is fortunate thatrequires selflessness. But as recovery develops, doubts and suspicions will return. So more effort is required to ensure that is viewed as the route to well-being. Meditative disciplines and spiritually-oriented self-care may help; or psychodynamic therapy.
commits you to impose on yourself the potential for , unlikely as that may seem. And it gets support from the that you now require. requires you to become realistic about , and it gets acceptance through your appreciation of from those you confide in. is powerfully boosted by your promotion of : support for develops credibility, while upholding is encouraging. In looking for guidance, challenges , and in looking for positive effects, it energizes your .
Your imagination can open up a world of possibilities and, in its own way, offers certainty that there are alternatives. Access to the imagination depends on a weakening of ego-control (hence selfless) and comes from where dreams are created (so relevant to your self). The usual rules of logic do not apply: features include magical thinking, parts become equal to the whole, associations become identities, and symbolic operations transform normal perceptions. When reality is being managed, imagination is a flow of experiences (images, feelings, sensations, thoughts &c) that are relevant and available to be used as you choose. For reasons that are not understood, you can depend on your imagination to point the way forward. Meditation, a selfless state, typically releases an imaginative flow: which is why it may be helpful in times of trouble.
If imaginative functioning replaces reality-based thinking, you appear psychotic to others. Severe psychological disturbance often blocks the imaginative flow because of the realistic possibility of a psychotic decompensation. Selflessness then shows up as an absence of a self or its fragmentation self. In schizophrenic or schizoid individuals, there is typically a corresponding splitting of reality into 'good' and 'bad' aspects.
That energizes your . It will also reaffirm , and align with . It must confirm any activation of .
flows from deepest recesses of your authentic self. In a state of collapse, it is almost impossible to do anything beyond the basics of surviving. Performance is mechanical rather than spontaneous. As recovery progresses, becomes possible for yourself and for those about you. You must make a positive decision to activate it in suitable situations and rely on your to carry you through.
Your confirm , and it should constrain your . and channel your support for .will
The other three levels—KL6, KL5, KL3—have two Centres each: these must take heed of each other and connect to the Centres on the spine.
Except in films and fairy stories, nobody ever transforms themselves. A continuity of identity is essential and unavoidable. And yet dreams have a place and this is a realm where you still have autonomy. The potential for transformation must be preserved and taken seriously. Instead of continuity, your life has come to a sharp stop. The present has announced its ending, but your future has not yet been created. So you are in limbo. Take advantage of that by reciprocity between what you envisage for yourself and this adaptation.and identify potentials for change. At the same time, you must re-create imaginatively a new environment within which you would be able to adapt. There should be a
No-one ever transforms. But that does not mean you should not envisage a transformation. At the very least, you certainly do not want to remain in a state of collapse. That potential acts as a magnet keeping you exploring possibilities. Your confidantes need to engage with this potential as well.
By having abecome committed to . Your vision also strengthens ; and, because the is beyond current reality, it helps you focus .you
Of equal importance is a. Your former state has become a severe disappointment or betrayal. The new state must not repeat that. So it must somehow be constituted out of entirely different elements, possibly put together in a totally different way. You may envisage yourself contributing, but you need others and the world at large to participate in their own way.
Whatever demands for it to be enabled. It also encourages you to , and gets support for your .you require
You have to understand yourself, your past and your possible futures in an impartial way. That entails wondering: about what happened, about the motives of others, about the influence of key people, about possible futures, and much else. Now is not the time to delude yourself with defensive postures. Those have failed you anyway. Your understanding must be impartial and selfless and the best way to develop it is toto a confidante the variety of thoughts and ideas that come to mind as you ask yourself all the obvious questions. Encourage confidantes to speculate too and what they offer.
You need to understand can I be , what can I do, past doesn't work (so intuition is useless. Keeping your own diary can be useful: noting down dreams that you have, experiences that recur, and trends in your moods. But recording is not sufficient. You must reflect on your wondering, develop theories and explanations, chase trains of thought and pursue implications.
becomes realistic. It validates your , and strengthens the .helps to ensure
There is no point in confiding to others if you do not listen to what they have to offer. They wonder how and why you got yourself into this state and how you can extricate yourself. They are as aware as you that new relationships don't spring up out of the ground, or that finding a new quality job is hard. Although they probably know you to some degree, they will understand you much better when youwhat is going through your mind, and they see how you react to their speculations for your future. So you must actively take it in and suggestions now matter how wide of the mark they may initially seem to be. (In therapy, your appreciation will cycle with bouts of hostility, contempt or other negative states flowing from your psychopathology.)
encourages you to expect a , helps in getting acceptance of your , and should justify your .
Any identity is sustained by the values held. Not superficial preferences or activities, not even ideologies, but thethat give your life its meaning. Values like freedom, beauty, truth, compassion, creativity, peace, harmony, and others. These values are universal and perennial, hence intrinsically selfless in nature. They cannot (or should not) be damaged by your destabilization because your collapse is a about self and ego. Breakdown cannot touch or taint a part of your life that is most acceptable to others. By re-activating and re-contacting these values, you are enlivened and the road to re-integrating with others opens up.
are what has been universally and at all times viewed as good. So all societies embrace them, typically within their ideals. Ideals current in society motivate others in your network. Your support for those ideals makes you acceptable and bring you closer to them. This then paves the way for your re-integration into social life through favored activities.
These credibility for how and who you , and validate your . They should align with , and channel so that you feel yourself.provide
Everyone finds differentto be maximally meaningful. For one it is freedom, for another it is truth, for a third it is beauty. Usually there is more than one, but not too many. If you activate your personal , they can provide you with energy, strength, drive, and conviction. Above all, they will make you acceptable again in your own eyes.
encourage you to Your . on them also reaffirms the , and constrains your reliance on .
Previous updating: 24-Mar-2014. Last updated 24-Jan-2015.